My wife and I have been married for a few months, and one of her friends will not stop bugging us about having kids. She even started sending us baby stuff! How do I tell her to back off without making anyone mad?
JR: I would ask her if she kept a receipt, because what she sent wasn’t exactly your style. Once you get the receipt, take the item back, and use the funds to take her out for a nice glass of wine. Tell her this is more what you have in mind for the foreseeable future.
JW: Start spreading rumors that you might have been wanted for dozens of child labor law violations in the Reno, Nev. area. Then start saying things like you would like to get some more help around the house or at work. Things will figure themselves out.
JT: It happens. The ones closest to you love you, and they sometimes give unsolicited advice or comments. Maybe take the time to politely tell your friend you appreciate them, but you will let them know if and when you’re planning on having children.
Every time we invite my sister over for dinner, she brings a different guy as her date. We have dinner once a week… when is it okay for me to say something?
JR: You should say something. And that something should be, “Get it, girl!”
JW: Make a name plaque and put it where he’s going to be sitting. Put a bunch of guys’ names on it, but cross their names out, and then put his name at the bottom. She’ll think that is hilarious.
JT: If you’re really sensitive to this, let her know she doesn’t have a plus-one once in a while. But really, unless it’s super annoying, let her date and have fun.
I’ve been thinking about a career change lately, but everyone I talk to says it wouldn’t be financially savvy. I really think I would be happier if I looked elsewhere for work. Is it worth the potential cut in pay?
JR: It has been scientifically proven that you can buy happiness with money. Just picture all those dollar bills you’re earning at your current job and watch as a feeling of contentment takes over.
JW: In the words of Alec Baldwin in Glengarry Glen Ross: “Put that coffee down, coffee is for closers only.” If you aren’t in 100 percent, you’re fired. Get out, you hack! So yeah, hit the bricks, you pre-quitter.
JT: What is your happiness worth? If you’re miserable, but are making great money, is the money worth it? Enjoy every day and do what’s best for you.